What steps should a person follow to combat addiction?

Q: What steps or processes should a person following in order to “combat addiction?”

A: There is no way to “combat” (and win)… But there are at least a 1000 ways to learn to live with it.
There are as many routes out of addiction as there are people with an addiction (even tho a lot of people will tell you that there is “only one road out” -theirs, by the way-)…


Combat or Grow?

To be 100% clear: you can not combat something within yourself… Who should be the winner if you battle your self? Should your I be the winner? That would mean that your self  is the looser!…

How can you help yourself to grow and to learn to live with this chronic disease in order to make it as unimportant in your life as possible (not by ignoring is but by making it important to do the things that ultimately make it unimportant). And you can learn from your dependence in order to grow and gain quality of life (even tho it may feel kinda rough sometimes)


Steps or Direction?

The steps, you ask? That is on you! (and the ones you love)…
For -in my opinion- there are as many routes out of addiction as there are people with an addiction (even tho a lot of people will tell you that there is only one road -theirs, by the way-)…
So if you ask me about steps I think about the things we tend to talk about in Integrative Addiction Management:


Integrate not fight

Firstly: are you willing to integrate your addiction?

Learning to understand when and how your biological addiction “wants to be fed”, what are the (accumulated!) risk factors in your life. And learning to give it the necessary clarity in the moments of craving.

Do you need meds (and do you take ‘em regularly IF you really need them to cope with your life -if you search for happiness via chemical routes, I’d advise to look elsewhere)?


Learn not fight

Are you willing to learn from every(!) slip up?

Do you have a social network that understands you and that understand your addiction and is advised by you to take the necessary steps?

And about your dependence (NOT being your addiction):

Why do you want to use?.. and are you willing to look for alternatives OR acceptation for each of these reasons?
Are you willing to find creative new solutions?


And underneath?

Are you willing to look at the possible ‘heavy’ life experiences in the past that helped make your dope so appealing to you?
Are you willing to look at new and different ways to cope with unpleasant feelings, to express them and/or ‘sit ‘em out’ if necessary.

Are you willing to look at your needs and wants. And are you willing to look at yourself and accept yourself as is.

Are you willing to have a look at your future and foster the self-love to do the things that will create a future that is interesting enough to live toward to…


Not alone

Are you willing to be helped?… There will be lots that you’ll have to do yourself. But most people don’t manage by themselves.

Wishing you all the best and let me know if I can do things for you.

Hans

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Zelfcontrole: nieuwe ideeën?

Als je op zoek bent naar inspiratie om ideeën op te doen om mensen te helpen bij controle dan is het misschien handig om even te kijken op:

zelfcontrole.info

oh, en mocht je goeie ideeën hebben die er niet bij staan… zet ze er dan bij AJB?

Aandachtspuntje… het kan zijn dat mensen die terecht hebben ingezet op abstinentie weer aan het twijfelen worden gebracht over iets waar ze maar verstandiger niet meer over zouden twijfelen… Als je twijfelt waar je eerst niet over twijfelde… bedenk je dan even of je daar wel over zou moeten twijfelen… Praat er over met mensen die jou kennen en die weten wat er voor jou belangrijk is. We kennen allemaal het risico dat twijfel met zich mee kan brengen dus soms is het handig om te twijfelen aan het nut van twijfelen 😉 Een oplossing kan zijn: bespreek het met mensen (die je hier ontmoet).

Paying back: Lotgenoten contact

uit de Twaalf Stappen van Alcoholics Anonymous

-12-

Stap 12 uit het 12-stappen model wordt wel beschreven als:

  • “Nu deze Stappen ons tot geestelijke bewustwording hebben geleid, hebben wij geprobeerd deze boodschap aan alcoholisten door te geven en deze principes bij al ons doen en laten toe te passen.”
  • “Werk met anderen die willen herstellen aan hun herstel.”
  • “Geef uw ervaringen door aan lotgenoten.”

Omdat ik er voor het gemak van uit ga dat ook jij het niet alleen gered hebt om met jouw verslaving (of co-verslaving) om te gaan, noemen we in onze benadering deze strategie wel “paying back”. Mensen hebben geholpen om met de afhankelijkheid of verslaving om te gaan… dat is geïntegreerd en daar ben je sterker uit gekomen… tijd om een ander te helpen (en daarmee jezelf te helpen).

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